Mindsets

Wes’s:

  • Organize after you have a mess, not before–how can you organize if you don’t have anything to organize?
  • Guilt is not productivity
  • Anxiety is how you feel the future
    • And it’s wrong all the time: (safe, not sorry)
  • Know what you need to know, not everything you can know.
  • Teach people what they need to know, not everything they can know.
  • Your environment shapes you, so shape your environment to shape yourself.
  • Importance is attention
  • Hook, Relate, Elaborate
  • Expertise is Intuition
  • Communicate to, not through
  • People follow people, not rules
  • You motivate people by not demotivating them
  • Helping can be hurtful, especially unsolicited help
  • Anxiety is prediction
  • Surprise is when anxiety is wrong
  • Your thoughts are not your own (feelings too) – also, regard all thoughts as dreams
  • Know but don’t Believe (cigarettes, DUI, common sense, magic, prediction)
  • Optimism, not Pessimism (half empty is the default, half full is a choice, how do you want to live?)
  • What before How (vision before destination, destination before road map, detour according to vision)
  • Decisions are felt not made (broaden your perspective to optimize feelings, frame feelings based on decision)
  • Feelings cause Actions that shape Feelings (you are how you treat others)
  • People are inherently good (afflictive actions should cause pause, not hatred)
  • Confidence leads skill
  • NWWTDTRT – No Wrong Way to do the Right thing
  • Helping isn’t Pleasing
  • Learning is influencing future behavior, not memorization
  • Influence is Affect
  • Liking is Familiarity – Liking is Trying
  • Happiness is a Choice
  • Optimism or Pessimism is a Choice
  • Beliefs Before Reason
  • Beliefs Come Before Data to Back Them Up
  • YFWYLF – You Find What You Look For
  • You’re Bad at Stats
  • Emotions are a Moving Average Summary of Recent Events (now ponder adding YFWYLF to this)
  • Anxiety is Not Enough Reflection Upon What’s Good
  • Indecisiveness is A Lack of Belief (not a lack of data) – you overcome indecision by taking a stand, arbitrarily if need be, and then refusing to change your newfound belief as if you’ve always had it.
  • People change.
  • Meditation entails putting your mind in neutral – disengaging thoughts and feelings from driving your mind
  • What disturbs you today won’t come to mind a week from now.
  • Fairness is myopic.
  • Decisiveness requires predilection.
  • Feedback isn’t obligatory, things can be ok as is.
  • There’s always room for change, not improvement.
  • The Universe doesn’t give a damn.
  • Politics is never rational.
  • Habit = moving average of your behavior
  • Habits have to serve a purpose.
  • Emotions are Safe not Sorry.
  • Feelings often aren’t true.
  • Results unite people (even the common cause alone makes enemies friends)
  • You can feel any way you want, How do you want to feel? What can you do to feel that way?
  • Hypocrisy is not universally unhealthy.
  • success and failure are fleeting
  • Substitute productive/counterproductive for right/wrong
  • People are biased, but Not Me.
  • Imitation is efficient
  • The human mind reverts to a mean level of happiness within at most 6 months of the best and worst of events
  • Pain is often a blessing, an opportunity if you stay with it and work to understand it.
  • Don’t organize, search
  • When someone’s hard work falls apart, pick up the pieces so they don’t have to suffer further.

From others:

Alan Weiss (a frequent source of inspiration):

  • Success not perfection
  • No one is “unmeetable”
  • Objection is a sign of interest
  • Tell the audience what they need to know, not everything that you know
  • Alanisms